How many times do you doubt it’s possible for you to have the same level of ‘luck’ ‘good fortune’ or ‘success’ as the people around you?
“You’re never chosen, you don’t win anything, everything you try fails”…RIGHT?
Perhaps you’re not as fun, not as pretty, not as rich, not as smart, or just never fit in no matter how hard you tried?
Well that’s what you believe anyway.
But how much of that is REALLY true? And what of that even matters?
I’ve had these thoughts run through my mind so many times in my life.
Growing up in my humble country house-hold, the most common phrase I heard over and over was, “it’s just my luck” and “that would be right!” (said with sarcasm at the new experience of seeming bad luck) and the big one, “Given my luck I would….” (also said with sarcasm and a negative outcome to finish the sentence).
I won’t pretend it’s easy to overcome this pattern of thinking. The fact is, it ‘s an ongoing loop that sabotages any possibility of a positive outcome.
And to be honest, it’s familiar and on some level, it feels safer than the unfamiliar feeling of being one of the ‘lucky’ ones.
I also won’t pretend these little monsters won’t ring in your ears again from time to time once you overcome them.
But I will promise you it IS POSSIBLE to turn these thoughts around.
Dr Wayne Dyer said it beautifully many years ago when he published the book, ‘Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life’.
“When you change the way you look at things, the way you look at things change”.
I am living proof this works.
Having spent decades on the ‘unlucky’ side of the table, it was a long, hard slog to get myself out of that seat and over to the good side.
What I realised is that the ONLY person who can get me there, is me.
So how did I do it?
I decided to focus on the reasons why I am lucky.
It never ceases to amaze me how this one simple change in thinking creates a change in circumstances. FAST!
Here’s some serious lucky mojo examples that have proven to me that the late Dr Wayne Dyer had it so right.
In my early 20’s, I was taking a trip to Sydney to the Fitness Expo with my mum.
As I was driving to the airport, I said to my mum, “Damn I feel lucky!”
I said it with such conviction that a flood of tingles energised my body, so much so it took my breath away.
Two days later, I found out I had won second division in PowerBall! I won $6000!
More recently, sitting at a women’s luncheon and networking event I said to the person next to me (after she told me she never wins anything), “I am really lucky, I win things all the time”.
Then whose name gets pulled out of the raffle to win a nights accommodation at an apartment and a bottle of sparkling wine?
Mine! Me! Mwah!
A couple of months ago, I wanted to share my self-made good luck.
I was at a French inspired evening with my mum and I said, “You’re going to win a prize tonight.”
Who do you think won a bottle of French champagne and a dinner for two at the local French restaurant?
My mum of course.
The truth is, you can create your own luck and it all depends on what you choose to think, feel and see.
The truth is you have a choice.
I could spend all day thinking about my bad luck.
My hubby and I have experienced more thefts of our belongings, than I have fingers.
I could focus on my father’s tragic accident.
I could consume myself with the financial losses we have experienced that debilitated us and separated our family for a period of time.
And of course, they were all the things I focused on for a long time.
But for what? To experience more of the same? Why would I do that to myself?
The fact is, I am not the funniest, the prettiest or the most successful.
But the truth is, I don’t care because I feel like I am.
I am so grateful to have friends and family I can laugh with, who inspire me to take care of my skin, body and health, who can give me examples of how to be more successful in business.
To me, with these people in my life, I feel like the luckiest little duck in the world. I have an abundance of amazing women around me who inspire me endlessly.
Let’s face it, if you have your health, you are the luckiest person in the world because you can be, do or have whatever you put your focus and effort on.